how to be a dom

Everyone has been there: You're at a party and someone says something about how much they enjoy being a dominant or how kinky their sex life is. Your mind races with questions: What does that mean? Do I want to be involved in that? But what if I'm not sure about it myself? Don't worry, we've got you covered. In this article, we'll cover everything you need to know about being a dom from the perspective of submissives who have experienced both sides of the coin.

Do your research

Do your research. The BDSM lifestyle is not for everyone, and if you're thinking about exploring it, it's important to understand what it means and how to go about doing so safely.

• Research the BDSM community online. There are many resources available online that can help you learn more about this lifestyle: books, websites and blogs written by people who practice bondage or discipline/dominance (BDSM), as well as social media pages devoted specifically to these topics. Many of these sources will offer advice on how best to approach someone if you want them in your life as a partner or lover; others may provide tips on how exactly one goes about tying up another human being without accidentally cutting off their circulation!

• Do some local sleuthing! Once you've gained some knowledge through reading books or surfing the web, take advantage of all those new skills by going out into real life--and meeting real people! You might find yourself attending events hosted by local groups such as munches (where folks gather just for conversation) or workshops where experienced Doms teach other interested individuals how best not only tie knots but also create safe spaces where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves freely without fear

Decide if you're a switch or a full-time dom

You may be a switch, which means that you can play both roles. In this case, it's important to know what style of play you're looking for and how much time each role takes. If your partner also enjoys switching roles, then all the better! However, if your partner is only interested in being dominant or submissive, then being able to switch between the two may not be an option for either party.

This decision will affect not only what type of relationship dynamic works best (full-time vs casual) but also how much effort should be put into finding other partners who share similar interests as well as what kind of toys/equipment are needed when playing together

Understand your motivations to be a dom

Before you start to learn about the lifestyle, it's important to understand your motivations. Why do you want to be a dom? What do you hope to get from it? And what are the limits of what you're willing to do in this role?

Understanding these things will help ensure that both parties are on the same page about what's acceptable and what isn't, as well as help prevent any misunderstandings later down the road. It's also important for both parties' safety: if one person wants something that goes against their safeword or limits, then there needs to be another way out (like an "I'm done" phrase).

It's also worth noting that being a dom isn't just about sex--it can also mean having power over someone outside of sexual situations (like ordering them around). If this sounds appealing but doesn't involve physical contact at all times, then go ahead and try out being a top instead!

Set boundaries and stick to them

Once you've decided what kind of relationship you want, sub and dom relationship? it's time to set boundaries. This is a crucial step in being the dom you want to be because it helps ensure that both parties know where they stand.

Boundaries should be discussed openly, honestly and often throughout the duration of your dynamic--especially when one or both parties feel like something isn't working for them anymore. It's important not only for establishing what works for each person involved but also for creating an environment where all parties feel comfortable expressing themselves freely

Determine what level of involvement you want with your submissive

You can be a dom in a casual relationship, or you can be a dom in a long-term relationship. You can also be a dom in a polyamorous relationship, or even an open one. The level of involvement you want with your submissive will determine how much time and effort you put into training them.

You should get tested for STIs. The most common STIs are herpes, chlamydia and gonorrhea. In some cases, these diseases can be passed from partner to partner even if there is no visible symptoms. Also, test for HIV and hepatitis B and C. If you choose not to get tested for any reason, don't have sex with anyone who has not been tested in the last six months.

STI Screening Recommendations:

• For all new sexual partners: Get tested at least once a year and more often if you have multiple partners or engage in riskier activities (like anal sex).

• If you're pregnant: You may want to get tested before getting pregnant or immediately after giving birth so that any infection can be treated before passing it on to your baby through breastfeeding or vaginal delivery (if necessary).

Being a dom is more than just BDSM

Being a dom is more than just BDSM. It's about control, not pain. It's about power, not dominance. And it's definitely not something you should do if you're looking for someone to treat you like shit and give no respect in return.

Domination is about trust and respect--and communication! If your partner isn't communicating what they want or need from the experience then there won't be any way for either of you to have an enjoyable time together. Communication is key when it comes to being both a good sub or top (or switch).

Conclusion

These are just a few tips for being a dom. If you're interested in learning more about the lifestyle, check out our guides on how to be a submissive and how to be kinky in general.